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This week has been mad. Completely brilliant, fantastic and lovely-mad but mad nonetheless. The house renovations continue with our new kitchen being fitted this week and last week I chose all of the finishes touches like worktops and handles. It was a really interesting experience for me because it’s been a while since I last spent such big amounts of money on my home. It was a true reflection of the continued money mindset work I do and today I wanted to share some of this with you.
Everyone has a money story. Everyone has a relationship with money that they cultivated throughout their childhood and then either changed or reinforced as an adult.
For me, I wouldn’t say I have a wildly elaborate money story but there is definitely some history there which I’ve needed to work on. As a child we lived in a safe, comfortable and loving home. It wasn’t the lap of luxury but it was really lovely. Every year my parents saved hard to send us on a lovely family holiday and times were good. Looking back I think very positively about my childhood and the availability of money.
Underneath this though, there are some themes that I’ve had to work my way out of. Mostly they were around fear of lack of money. These are the kind of messages I heard around money:
money doesn’t grow on trees
it’s best to save your money
don’t waste money on silly things
you have to work really hard for money
there is a limit to the amount of money we can make
if you can do a job yourself you should, save your money
Now I expect you’re reading these and thinking that they are perfectly reasonable things for a child to hear. After all we want our children to grow up being conscious of how to look after their pennies, right?! That way they will never be without.
And in part I would agree, but the problem occurs when we grow up believing that money is linked so heavily to fear.
‘I’d better not buy that in case I run out of money’
‘If I run out of my money I won’t be able to afford my mortgage’
‘my family told me that my business idea was ridiculous’
‘I should have believed it when they said I couldn’t make my business a success’
I needed to re-write my money story to be able to make more money. It’s as simple as that. I needed to open my mind to the world of self investment and development. I needed to see the value of outsourcing aspects of my business and stop trading my precious time.
The truth is that this took time. It took commitment to a daily money mindset practice and it took making some pretty ‘seat of my pants’ decisions to see that money isn’t this big scary beast that some people believe it is.
My mindset practice is something that I believe wholeheartedly in and do every single day. I work with my private clients to create their own life changing version of this and for those who have been 100% committed, the results have been life changing.
The great news is that when you start to shift and re-shape your own ideas of money, the easier it is to make money. I know for some of you this might sound a little woo-woo but I promise you it’s true.
So this week when I was in the kitchen showroom, trying to convince myself that the ‘OK’ worktop would be ‘OK’ and that the beautiful shiny granite worktop was a waste of money, excessive, greedy and unnecessary, I checked back in with myself and my new beliefs. I told myself to stop making excuses for not showing up for myself. I actually spoke to myself, I told myself that it is ‘just money’ and that ‘I am worth it’.
I bought the granite. And the rose gold handles!
If you want to start your own personal journey towards a new money mindset let’s talk. You can schedule a chat using the link below: